(S)he Is Beautiful
This Monday, the day of creative writing class, was the second time of Mbak
Abmi to substitute Mas Dalih, my lecturer who was absent because of having an
important thing to do in Bali. Watching “Bag It” movie and reviewing it were what we had to do on the previous
meeting with her. This Sunday, she brought appearing-like-a-lady guest with
long hair, pointed nose, and proportional body. Her strange appearence, made
our doubts came up while she was sitting at the corner. Then, we were asked to
interview her by five topics from Mbak Abmi in team. In addition, our doubt
revealed when Mbak Abmi called her ‘HE’. Yup, it may be queer but it’s real
that she is waria, a man appearing as
a woman. That made me change my mind to call him as ‘SHE’ no more but as ‘HE’.
Olivia Sonya Aresta, kindly called as Sonya, was originally from Klaten and
now he has been living in Jogja since he was in vocational school (D3). Being a
waria does not relieve his will to
still exist in Perkumpulan Keluarga
Berencana Indonesia (PKBI), run his business as an online seller, make-up
bride, and beauty consultant.
He has been doing his best to find his identity since the rejection from
his mother as a teacher, who is regarded by people around as a good figure.
That’s what she has to do to get a confession and acceptance from his
family.
Living here in Jogja for continuing his study in vocational school, brought
a funny memory for him to remember about the first causes leading him to be
like what he is now. His parents allowed him to play with girls rather than
boys because they might hurt him. It made him like to make-up, play doll, and dress
like a girl. Even as he was in junior high school, he was feeling afraid no
more to go outside for hanging out in the night and it countinued until senior
high school. One day when he went to a mall and wore skirt, he met his friends
there and automatically they got surprised by looking him dressing like a
woman. Because of feeling shocked by
their notice, he threw his shoes and ran away. This made him getting mocked and
had to hide from his friend. Went out from Klaten and lived in Jogja were his
choice to avoid their mockings, but it still did not make him live in peace,
because people knew his rejection and throwing done by his family. However, he
refused their assumption because he really wanted to restrain the inconvenience
from his family of his decision to be a waria.
Jogja is a pleasant place for her
with Its fascinating atmosphere which madeit different from other place he had
ever visited, like Solo, Bandung, Jakarta and even Bali. In addition, he found both
lessons and his confidence here when he became a volunteer for earthquake in
Bantul. Here, he also finds his true friends who care with him, looked after
him when he was hospitalized and always by her side. He feels that his friends
have made him meaningful, so he wants to made her life more meaningful by being
a volunteer in PKBI not only for one or two months but forever. He wants to
help people, especially waria to fight against HIV AIDS and to defend their
identity to be admitted as an equal resident who have similar rights as others.
I think It is very best for me for considering her as a beautiful one, from her
inner that has inspired me a lot. Thank You..